January 27th 2019
For Better or Worse
For Better or Worse – Part 1
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This morning we are kicking off a new 3-week focus on the subject of relationships. I’d like to clarify that while the main focus will center around marriage and dating; the principles we apply to our lives because they come from Jesus, also apply to our relationships with our children, parents, co-workers, church relations and pretty much anyone we come into contact with on a regular basis.
But without faith it is impossible to please Him, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him.Hebrews 11:6 NKJV
The Love Covenant
Your love for one another will prove to the world that you are my disciples.”John 13:35 NLT
If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal.1 Corinthians 13:1 NIV
Love! The subject and understanding have been so abused and wrongly defined by our culture that I must take the time to properly reset our soul in knowing the true meaning of love.
The World says…
Love is an _________ of the ________, accompanied ___ __________ that _________ to ________ on behalf ____ its ___________.
Watch this…because this is a JESUS in a 3D moment…
Greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.John 15:13 NKJV
For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.John 3:16 NKJV
By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren.I John 3:16 NKJV
- Your marriage will be better.
- Your relationship with your kids will be better.
- Your relationship with your family will be better.
- Your commitment to your church will be better.
- Your relationship with God will be better.
Your marriage is either getting better or worse, it never stands still.
Two Essentials for Marriage:
The two individuals in the marriage must feel loved and appreciated.
- Words of affirmation: using words to build up the other person. “Thanks for taking out the garbage.” Not – “It’s about time you took the garbage out. The flies were going to carry it out for you.”
- Gifts: a gift says, “I’m thinking about you. You’ve heard the phrase, “it’s the thought that counts”…… that’s not a cop-out to not get a gift because the rest of it looks like this…” it’s the thought that propelled me to go out and get this for you that counts.”
- Acts of Service: Doing something for your spouse that you know they would like. Cooking a meal, washing dishes, vacuuming floors, are all acts of service. And if you’re keeping points… no points are given if you’re being asked to do those things. You may do the act but because you didn’t initiate it on your own…. it won’t communicate that you value them.
- Quality time: by which I mean, giving your spouse your undivided attention. Taking a walk together or sitting on the couch with the TV off – talking and listening.
- Physical touch: holding hands, hugging, kissing, sexual intercourse, are all expressions of love.
Rarely do a husband an wife speak the same love language and by nature, you speak what your love language. Because of this, you may be speaking love but not communicating it.
They key is that we must learn to speak the other person’s language.
Two Essentials for Marriage:
2. Deal effectively with your failures
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